Friday, December 31, 2021

Sunday Story…Never Say Never

 

Or Always. My partner, Ellie, reminded me the other day of something I said way back in 2013. I told her I would Never teach a 5:30AM class. I would never get up that early and I would never be available to teach that class. So, if we scheduled it, she would be the one teaching it and she did for many years. Fast forward 7 years and “boom” a pandemic happened. Something shifted in me, and I began to arise at 4am. That’s right…the time also known as 0’dark thirty. I found a new groove.

 

People who said they would never run a mile let alone a marathon find themselves training and lining up on race day. People who say losing weight never works for them find a way to miraculously lose the weight. Maybe you said you’ll never (insert that thing(s) here). And then there you are in the thick of whatever that thing is.

 

Never encompasses a long time. Always leaves no room for deviation. There is room for a shift in perspective. There is the possibility you will receive new information that makes never untenable and always impossible. I get it…we all love the certainty and finality that never and always provide. But the fact is we will often be wrong when we use those words.

 

Never say never…or Always…Never say Never! You may be proven wrong before you know it.

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412

Thursday, December 23, 2021

Sunday Story…On Vacation

Enjoying the tropical paradise in Cozumel Mexico! 


Sharks, eels, and fish, Oh My!


Enjoy your Holiday!


John Mariotti


www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412


Saturday, December 18, 2021

Sunday Story…The Critic and the Cheerleader


It’s that time again. The end of the year when we take stock of what the past year has given us…the celebrations, the highs and lows, the goals met and those that never came to fruition. 


Often when we look back over our accomplishments the inner critic comes out and camps on our doorstep. This is the guy who picks apart every little thing that you didn’t do, every failure, every  finish line not crossed. We need to put this guy out to pasture. He is not helping….not one little bit. As a matter of fact if you were in a relationship with someone who criticized, condemned, and complained about you constantly you would drive that toxicity from your life (wouldn’t you?)


Look, in any given time period some things will go well and others not quite as you expected. If I dwell on the bad the good loses its luster. All the less than stellar results are just lessons to be learned. In many ways those things are more important than things that went swimmingly. But you will need to keep your inner cheerleader busy helping you see those things.


Go ahead and assess your last year. Learn the lessons that were available to you but don’t stew about the things that weren’t right. Let those go without reservation. Look for the things that went right and celebrate all of them!


Kick the critic to the curb and let the inner celebrant have all the fun.


John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412


Saturday, December 11, 2021

Sunday Story…Full Steam Ahead


Damn the torpedoes! This is often the approach we take early in life. All in, no quarter, life lived with the throttle wide open is often our default position when we are young. And it works for the most part. We have the energy, the enthusiasm, and the physicality to make it work.


But it is also said that wisdom is having good judgment. And good judgment comes from bad decisions. Recently I qualified for the fittest experience competition in January. After the online qualifier I placed 5th which was good enough (barely) to get an invite to come to Austin. But as many of you have noticed by my gimpy walk over the last few months I am not 100%. Will I be 100% by the end of January? I suspect I will be but that’s not the issue. The issue is how well can I train between now and then? And the answer is not that well. When we combine that fact with the fact that the CrossFit open and the road to the 2022 games begins at the end of February the best decision may be to let the healing process take a little longer.


In the past I would have thrown caution to the wind and accepted the invite. Although it would be fun to go throw down in Austin, it wouldn’t be smart and it certainly wouldn’t move me toward my long term goals of extraordinary health and fitness.


What are your long term goals? Is what you are doing moving you toward those goals? Or are you sabotaging the long term goals in pursuit of short term satisfaction. Sometimes the best course of action is delayed gratification…the fruit is always sweeter when it is ripe.


John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412


Saturday, December 4, 2021

Sunday Story…Full Effort


Is Full Victory is something my coach used to say to me whenever I expressed dis-satisfaction in my performance. Those words helped me to focus on what was both important and under my control.


We are coming into a time when it is easy to lose focus…on your fitness, on your nutrition, on your important relationships. Many of us have conflicted experiences around this time of year. It is easy to fall back  into old patterns of behavior that we have spent years trying to shift. And when we do, we beat ourselves up for not doing what we know we are supposed to do.


Here's the deal…you aren’t perfect. You won’t eat perfectly every day. You won’t have a gold star workout every time. Sometimes you will be a jerk. Forgive yourself. Move on.


The idea is to give your full effort every chance you get. Real satisfaction lies in the effort. You won’t be first every time. You won’t be last either. Learn from your less than stellar performances. It is the effort that counts.


So when you fall off track ( and you will as we all do) acknowledge the misstep and decide to make another, better effort. Give yourself a pat on the back for doing it at all. Just the effort puts you so far ahead that victory is yours.


John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412

 

 




Thursday, November 25, 2021

Sunday Story…Excess becomes You


It’s that time of year again. Excess becomes the norm. At least the excess of things that may not be so good for you. Most of us don’t over-exercise this time of year but we often over-eat and/or over-drink. 


There are lots of strategies to help prevent us from overdoing our celebrations. I am not going to go over them here. What am I am going to give you is a strategy to navigate these next few weeks so you can emerge stronger and filled with energy to attack the new year with joy and purpose.


First...Love yourself. Stop beating yourself over the head for doing things you think you should not have done. They are done. Oh well. You did whatever it was now get over it. 


Second...Express gratitude...every chance you get. Have you ever thought about being grateful for the spaciousness to make bad decisions, learning from those decisions, and then moving forward? This is how we get wisdom...by making bad decisions and then profiting from the analysis.


Third...Plan ahead. Save some space for self-care before and after those events and times when you may consciously over-indulge. And notice I said consciously over-indulge. That leads us to the last thing.


Fourth...Be conscious. You are human full of foibles, faults, and face-plants. You aren’t perfect, none of us are. You are still loveable. You are not beyond redemption. It’s ok to be less than perfect. Just be conscious about it.


Enjoy every bite, every sip, every interaction. Then when retrospection has you wishing maybe you could have done things a little differently you can take that lesson to heart.


John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412



Saturday, November 20, 2021

Sunday Story…Grace

It’s that time of year again. Parties, lots of tempting food and drink, tacit permission to over-indulge, spiraling guilt and shame over your lack of willpower over those temptations. What is the answer to the question of how will you navigate your way around those hazardous shores?


In a word...Grace. Your first step is to find within you the power of Grace. Grace will forgive your missteps. Grace will help you regain your power by allowing you to be charitable to yourself. You don’t have to just be charitable to those less fortunate than yourself. Charity begins at home, with yourself. Grace requires you to be kind...to yourself first. Beating yourself up for not being perfect is a losing battle. You will never win and you will continue to be swept down into a maelstrom of guilt, shame , and recrimination.


Grace is waiting for you. But you are going to have to dig in a little to find her. 

First...Love yourself. You with all your faults and warts. Get up in the morning and tell yourself...I love you. You are already perfect.

Second...When you step off the path (and you will, we all do), smile, forgive yourself, and step back on.

Third...Ask for help. The people who love you, love you no matter how many cookies you just ate. We will hold your hand, smile, and laugh and cry with you. And then we will recommit with you to hold our heads up and move forward.


Grace...try it, you might like it!


John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412


Saturday, November 13, 2021

Sunday Story...The Last Time


 I recently read an article that talked about  your “last time.” We never know when the last time we do something happens. Unless we are consciously setting something aside forever we may not know this is the last bee I will ever see, the last rose I will smell, the last time I will say goodbye to someone (unless we know they are really leaving the earth.)


So the “last time” gets relegated to memory. I can think back to the last time I ever did a scuba dive or shared space with my dog. But was that really the last time or was it just time before I did it again?


Here’s my take...you never know when this is the “last time” so developing the habit of staying in the present moment will help you appreciate the people, things, and experiences in real-time, as they are taking place. In the present moment and only in the present moment can I experience all there is to experience. 


The other part of being in the present moment is to express yourself fully in that moment, never allowing the moment to pass without expressing your gratitude and emotion for that experience. Being in the present also means having all of your being in the present as well.


Never allow a gratitude to be unsaid that needs to be said. 


John Mariotti

www.crossfitodsyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412


By the way, here’s the link to the article:

https://www.awakin.org/read/view.php?tid=2522


Saturday, November 6, 2021

Sunday Story…Waypoints on your journey


You are wherever you are on your fitness journey. Yesterday I had the pleasure of watching one of our coaches hit a back squat personal record of 400#. It was a thing of beauty…nice and deep, straight back, good return. He’s been working for this for quite some time and yesterday all his hard work paid dividends.

 

At the same time, I had a young man in for a private session. He’s 12 and just starting his journey. Of course, the question was how long until I can do something like that? The answer is it depends. There are so many variables on this fitness journey.

 

I will never get to a 400# back squat. My journey is not taking me in that direction. That young man may get there in 10 or 20 years. Or he may never get there. It will depend on him and his level of commitment to his own journey.

 

Realistically where are you on your journey? What is your level of commitment to your goals? Are they just ideas and dreams or do you have a plan and a program to manifest those goals? Without a plan and a program, you will never get out of the garage to hit the fitness road.

 

Want a 400# squat? You can have one if you really, really want it. But just wanting won’t be enough. Commit to the goal. Make a plan. Follow the plan. Adjust the plan. Recommit to the goal.

 

By the way… you know I’m not just talking fitness. Right?

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412

 

 

Saturday, October 30, 2021

Sunday Story...Be Here Now


Your body doesn’t lie. It carries with it every sling and arrow, every insult and injury, every time it was ignored and discounted. It is these traumas that arise when we begin to live in the present, in the here and now.

 

Your mind will deceive you or at least it will try. It will send you into the past which it has sanitized and made pleasant so you may stay ignorant of your injuries. Your mind will send you into the future where all the injuries and insults never occur.

 

The decision to live in the present is a decision to heal. A decision to force the mid to come to terms with the body and all it carries along. In the present, the past is just that…past. In the present the future holds no interest for there is nothing there yet.

 

In the present we cannot deny our shadow, we cannot ignore our imperfections and shortcomings; we can lie to ourselves no longer. Living in a world of projection (for the future), denying, and rationalizing (from the past) allows us to stay safe and comfortable. But none of this is the truth.

 

To tell yourself the truth, to face the facts of your experience requires you to be present in this moment, the here and now. This is the most difficult of tasks.

 

Be here now. Simple, not easy.

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sundaystories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412

 

Saturday, October 23, 2021

Sunday Story…Appreciation


You have welcomed my essays into your inbox for some time now. I am not sure I have ever thanked you for allowing me into your space. Thank-you. I am deeply grateful that you allow me the privilege of sharing my thoughts with you.

 

The practice of gratitude is one of the most powerful practices you can maintain. Deep gratitude is a gift to you. It will increase the serotonin in your body, help you with a positive mental outlook and keep your mood upbeat.

 

Spending 10 minutes in the morning and writing down 3 things you are truly thankful for will help create a sense of accomplishment even though you haven’t done a thing. These three things can be anything but I would exhort you to think globally. One thing may be gratitude for the body you have; another may be the prosperity and abundance you are experiencing. No matter what negatives you might think about those two things right now there are still a lot of people in the world who would gladly trade places with you.

 

If you do the same thing in the evening but this time expressing gratitude for 3 things that you found to be thankful for during the day your sleep will be deeper, more rejuvenating and you will fall asleep faster (since you are going to sleep with positive energy, not anxiety.)

 

 

Here’s a thought for you to express upon awakening…Thank you for blessing me with another day.

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412

Saturday, October 16, 2021

Sunday Story…Seriously


“Will you spend all your time chasing money only to spend all your money chasing health?”

You don’t have to shift 180 degrees. You don’t even have to make a sharp left turn. But you do need to start to prioritize a little differently. There will come a time in the not-so-distant future where it will be too late for preventative measures and you will be in full-on fire fighting mode.

 

“If you don’t make time now for your health and fitness you will be forced to make time later for your illness.”

It’s hard to make your fitness at the forefront. There are so many more pressing things to do. Right now though, you still have a choice. And if you start now that choice will remain with you. But if you don’t do it the choice will be taken from you and you will end up spending your time and money on doctor’s appointments.

 

“Working out is hard. Eating right is hard. Spending all your time in pain and trying to find your health again is harder.”

It wasn’t easy to get to the level of success you have achieved. You worked your tail off. You made compromises. You did what needed to be done to get there. This is no different. It won’t be easy, but nothing worth doing ever is.

 

“You don’t find the time to work out. You make the time.”

The time is now. Let’s go.

 

John Mariotti

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

www.crossfitodyssey.com

775-338-2412

 

Saturday, October 9, 2021

Sunday Story…The Golden Rule

We all know what it is. Virtually every religion has some version of it. Most of us are schooled in it from a very early age. It is both simple and easy to understand…treat others the way you want to be treated.

 

Here is today’s question:

If we agree that the golden rule is a good maxim to help us live a good and harmonious life why aren’t we treating ourselves better?

 

Honestly, the most important person in your daily life is you. Yet many people don’t eat good nutritious food, don’t get enough rest, do little to no exercise, pollute their minds with meaningless drivel, and have an interior monologue of negativities. Do you really want other people to treat you the way you treat yourself?

 

Are you ok if I throw some junk food at you, call you names, make you stay up all hours of the day and night, and fill your airwaves with information and entertainment whose sole purpose is to make you feel worse about yourself? Really? You are Ok with that?

 

I didn’t think so. Instead of spouting off about how poorly people are treating you and others around you, maybe taking a look at how you talk to yourself and treat yourself is in order.

 

Just think about it. And then try to treat yourself better. If it doesn’t work you can always go back to abusing yourself when you’re done treating yourself well.

 

Just my 2 cents.

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412

Saturday, October 2, 2021

Sunday Story…Decline vs. Decay


 

Ever since about age 30 or so we have all been declining. Our hormones peaked, our physicality began to plateau and we started the gentle slide into the next phase of life. Then beginning at 45 or so the decline got a little steeper. And by the time 60 hit for most people the decline became a slippery slope and decay began in earnest.

 

Decay doesn’t have to start. While you were focused on your family, your career, and your retirement plans you forgot about the physical body you inhabit. All the money in the world won’t stop the inevitable decay your body is going to exhibit if you don’t make some changes. The doctors are going to tell you it's all part of the aging process. The doctors are mistaken.

 

Yes, the decline may be inevitable but the slope doesn’t have to be steep. And decay can be stopped, paused, and reversed. It’s up to you. You get to decide what the next few years are going to look like.  Are you going to resign yourself to a swift progression to immobility, decay, and disease? Or are you going to dust yourself off and decide that the once true and certain future doesn’t belong to you?

 

Look in the mirror and ask yourself this:

Am I ready to get off my rear and get after life? Or am I going to accept the accelerated decline and inevitable decay we have seen so many others go through?

 

Decide soon.

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.com

775-338-2412

Saturday, September 25, 2021

Sunday Story…The Race


None of us will win. Recently the talk around my dinner table has centered around fitness and why do I have a relentless and obsessive pursuit for elite fitness? At what point will I be fit enough? At what point do I slow down and/or stop?

 

The answer is simple…Never. This pursuit isn’t really about fitness, elite, or otherwise. This obsession is about delaying, slowing, or stymieing the inevitable. None of us are getting out of this trip alive. The end of days is coming for each of us. There is no stopping it. It’s been getting closer since day one. The only question is what is life going to look like between now and your date of death?

 

You don’t have to resign yourself to years of decay until your final day becomes a relief. You can decide to pursue life with the same vigor and enthusiasm you did 20 or 30 years ago. But you are going to have to also decide to get off your rear and get to it. Your physical health is more critical now than it ever has been. The only way to preserve it is through work. Daily, weekly, monthly, yearly…your job is to find a way to have your vital energy stay with you to the end.

 

In the end, we should not want the journey to end. In the end, we should be lamenting all the green bananas we haven’t eaten!

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412

Saturday, September 18, 2021

Sunday Story…Behold the Turtle


He gets nowhere until he sticks his neck out. Yet risk appears when he sticks his neck out. Before he sticks his neck out he is safe, ensconced in his shell, impervious to predators.

 

But there is no way for our friend the turtle to get food or water without sticking his neck out. He can’t find a mate or do all the turtle things that turtles do. There is a risk in sticking your neck out. And there is a reward as well. Risk in and of itself is not a bad thing.

 

All forward motion involves risk. Remember way back when you were learning to walk? You fell down over and over and over. And you got up again and again and again. The reward of walking, of mobility, far outweighed the risk of falling on your well-padded rear.

 

The challenge is in knowing when the risk and reward ratios are in balance…in other words when the rewards far outweigh the risk. There are very few rewards that outweigh the risk of death, for instance. If I die in the attempt I can’t learn from my failure and try again. Failure should never be fatal. On the other side, are the odds of it working out worth the benefits? Getting up when I fall down so I can learn to walk for the rest of my life is a benefit that far outweighs the inconvenience of falling down.

 

So don’t stick your neck out in a pond of sharks. Do stick your neck out in places where you understand the risk and the reward is worth taking.

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412

Saturday, September 11, 2021

Sunday Story…from Seth Godin


Years ago I stopped posting other people’s stuff and wrote my own thoughts. But every once in a while someone writes something I think we should all read. Today is one of those. 

One of the people I have been reading and following over the last 5 or 10 years is Seth Godin. I often find inspiration in his blog. This is from his About Me:

“For more than thirty years, I’ve been trying to turn on lights, inspire people and teach them how to level up. This blog has been appearing daily for more than a decade.

 

You can see more of his stuff here: https://seths.blog/

 

Anyway, this week he wrote about school and how we are learning and teaching. It is particularly relevant, given that the pandemic has offered us an opportunity to re-think the way we do things…like school. Here is that blog post in its entirety:

 

 

The modern curriculum

We’ve spent 130 years indoctrinating kids with the same structure. Now, as some of us enter a post-lockdown world, I’d like to propose a useful (though some might say radical) way to reimagine the curriculum.

It’s been a century of biology, chemistry, arithmetic, social studies and the rest. So long that the foundational building blocks are seen as a given, unquestioned and unimproved. The very structure of the curriculum actually prevents school from working as it should.

I think that a significant shift is overdue. The one below could work for kids from the age of 6. It doesn’t eliminate the fundamentals of being educated, but it puts them into context. More important, because it’s self-directed and project-based, kids can choose to learn, instead of being forced to.

We’re living in the age of an always-connected universal encyclopedia and instantly updated fact and teaching machine called the Net. This means that it’s more important to want to know the answer and to know how to look it up than it is to have memorized it when we were seven. Given the choice between wasting time and learning, too many people have been brainwashed into thinking that learning is somehow onerous or taxing.

Introducing the modern curriculum


The basic foundation is student-centered, self-directed projects. In service of learning to solve interesting problems and how to lead as well as follow. And to support that, the “courses” are practical tools students can use on their projects.

Statistics–seeing the world around us clearly and understanding nuance, analog results and taxometrics (learning how to sort like with like). Realizing that everyone and everything doesn’t fit into a simple box. Learning to see the danger of false labels and propaganda, and the power of seeing how things are actually distributed.

Games–finite and infinite, poker, algorithms, business structures, interpersonal relationships, negotiation, why they work and when they don’t. We all play them, even when they’re not called games.

Communication–listening and speaking, reading and writing, presentations, critical examination and empathy. Can you read for content? Can you write to be understood? Can you stand up and express yourself, and sit still and listen to someone else who is working to be heard? What happens when we realize that no one is exactly like us?

History and propaganda–what happened and how we talk about it. More why than when. The fundamental currents of human events over time.

Citizenship–Participating, leading, asking and answering good questions. As a voter, but also as a participant in any organization.

Real skills–Hard to measure things like honesty, perseverance, empathy, keeping promises, trust, charisma, curiosity, problem solving and humor.

The scientific method–understanding what we know and figuring out how to discover the next thing. Learning to do the reading and show your work. There’s no point in memorizing the Krebs Cycle.

Programming–thinking in ways that a computer can help you with. From Excel and Photoshop to C++.

Art–expressing yourself with passion and consistency and a point of view. Not because it’s your job, but because you can and because it matters. Appreciating the art that has come before and creating your own, in whatever form that takes.

Decision-making–using the rest of the skills above to make better choices.

Meta-cognition–thinking about thinking, creating habits with intention.

Here’s my question: If you could work for someone who had these skills, developed over the course of a decade or more of public school, would you want to? What about working next to them, or having them work for you? Or dating them? Or living next door or voting for them?

If this is what we need and what we value, why aren’t we teaching it?

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

 

 

Saturday, September 4, 2021

Sunday Story…Relax



 

When was the last time you rode your bike with a friend with no destination or outcome or went for a run with someone way slower than you just to feel the camaraderie of activity? Maybe rent a paddleboard or kayak to just tool around the lake?

 

Part of your fitness…the general physical preparedness part in particular…needs to include activities done not for time, not for reps, not weight but for the sheer enjoyment of just being in the moment. Maybe you can find peace and solace in an activity for activities sake, enjoy the human company and stop striving and pushing for a few minutes.

 

Too often, we are in a constant race in our doings. Every so often (or even more often than that), let the race go. Let the effort drop off and talk as you ride or run or whatever. Get connected to the other human in your presence and allow the activity to flow like a river…at its own pace.

 

We need to push, to be challenged, and to strive for things. But we also need to relax and let the river of life flow and eddy around us. Finding gratitude for the abilities we have, for the people around us, and the natural world we are part of.

 

Go ahead, downshift and let the river carry on for a little while. Then come back and turn on the fire. You might find it burns hotter when you do.

 

John Mariotti

www.crossfitodyssey.com

www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

775-338-2412