Sunday Story…Why don’t I

Do what I know is going to be good for me?

You know you will feel better after you work out but…
You’re tired
It’s cold
You have SO much to do
You aren’t feeling well
You just aren’t in the mood.

So you don’t go. And you end up feeling worse partly because you didn’t work out and partly because you know it’s good for you and you denied yourself that feeling.

What is up with this? Why do we do this to ourselves? It isn’t just working out. It’s eating right. It’s drinking less. It’s reading more. It’s spending more and better time with our families.

You know what to do and you know you will feel better, and you know it’s good for you and yet you don’t do it. What happens in that brain of yours that this goes on? And on and on. Because it didn’t happen just once and you learned from it. Nope, it’s happening over and over again.

What will it take to fix this? It’s simple, really. Not easy but simple. First, make a commitment to yourself to keep your commitments. Second, make a commitment to do the thing you know will be good for but you are having a hard time doing. Third, install into your memory how you feel when you have done the thing you know will be good for you. Lastly, go do it. You’ll be glad you did.

John Mariotti
www.crossfitodyssey.com
www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com
775-338-2412

Sunday Story…The space

between

Where you are and where you want to be can be vast. It could be a chasm and look completely impassable. It could be a challenge and look like something that may inspire you to do more, be better.

You get to decide what that space becomes. Will you use it to pull you forward? Can it be a launching pad to do greater things? Will you dance with the fear of falling in the gap?

Or will you look over the edge into the abyss and walk away…over matched and under-inspired.

The choice is yours. This space isn’t just one thing or in one place. It keeps showing up to challenge your resolve. It keeps appearing to test your will.

How you look at that space is everything. Victory or defeat isn’t in what happens in that space, it is your attitude when you survey the landscape. Will you be defeated before you begin? Will you win before you finish?

The key is to determine how you will deal with the space before you know it is even there. Attitude is everything.

John Mariotti
www.crossfitodyssey.com
www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com
775-338-2412

Sunday Story…Why we do

What we do.
Why do you CrossFit? Why aren’t you on the treadmill or stair stepper or any of the other myriad choices for exercise?

Because you aren’t exercising, silly. People who exercise are doing it out of obligation or as a chore. The doctor says I have to exercise for 20 minutes a day so away I go to some mindless hamster wheel to “exercise”.

You CrossFit to be more fit than you were yesterday. You can move a larger load further and/or faster than you could yesterday. You are more fit. Hooray for you.

But why? I mean why is that important to you? We all have a different answer. Here’s a couple:
I want to go skiing in a couple weeks and I want the 3rd and 4th days to be as much fun as the first day.
I’m getting ready to play in a recreational sports league and I want to have fun and do well (and not get wrecked!)
I’m going to climb a mountain/run a half marathon/do a tough mudder and I want to have a good time doing it.

Better fitness equates to more fun! All of those things require better fitness. So get more fit. Have more fun. Look better because fit people are happier people and happier people are more fun to be around! Do more CrossFit!

John Mariotti
www.crossfitodyssey.com
www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com
775-338-2412

Sunday Story…this is

The year. The one where you finally do (fill in the blank). Yet all the years previous to this one you haven’t (fill in the blank). But this is the year. Finally, you will see it through. You will (fill in the blank).
Eat right
Lose 20 pounds
Quit smoking
Get Fit
Blah blah blah more uninspiring stuff.

Just stop already. We both know what the likely outcome of this is. I don’t need to tell you and you don’t need to look over the last few years to know.
Try this on for size…pick 1 fun thing you can do that will make someone else’s life better, more inspired, more something else. It isn’t for you; it has no consequence for you. You are going to do it because it will be both fun for you and create joy for someone else. Then do it as scheduled.

Here are some ideas:
Give your significant other 1 compliment a day
Tell your children you love them…at random times every day
Flirt with your spouse more
Write a personal note to someone every week expressing your gratitude to them

Sounds way more fun than the usual I’m going to lose 20 pounds this year only to blow it off by the 15th of January, doesn’t it? Just imagine how much richer your life will be if you spend a year doing 1 fun thing for someone else all year.

John Mariotti
wwwcrossfitodyssey@gmail.com
www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com
775-338-2412

Sunday Story…Message Sent

Is Not message received.

I can say just about anything and you will hear what you hear. Just because I said it doesn’t mean you actually heard it. You laid all your “stuff” on top of my words. “Stuff” like your own experience, your preparation to answer what I said, your willingness to deeply listen (or not), my use of language that is different than your understanding of the same language. With all that “stuff, it’s amazing we can communicate at all.

I can talk and talk and talk but unless you are listening and hearing, all my talk is for naught. It takes two to communicate. It takes effort to make sure you are understood and it takes effort to understand.

Deep listening is a gift. Give it often.

John Mariotti
www.crossfitodyssey.com
www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com
775-338-2412

Sunday Story…Lazy is

Sunday Story…Lazy is

As lazy does. Most of the time we view lazy as work avoidance. I don’t want to dig that ditch, or clean the garage, or do the dishes, or fold the laundry so I find other things to do that I find more appealing, or, at least, less daunting.

But the facts in this modern life are simple: if I don’t want to do it, I can find or pay someone else to do it. And there is a pretty good chance they will do it better than I will anyway. This is especially true of tasks I detest. If I don’t like yard work, for a few bucks I can get a professional crew to do it and it will look way better than anything I would have ever done.

The kind of lazy that is more prevalent today avoids a different kind of labor. The kind of deep emotional work that requires real effort, mental, physical, emotional, psychic, and spiritual. The really hard work of digging in and seeing who you are…and who you are not.

This is the lazy that avoids thoughtful conversations. The lazy that refuses to introspect and uncover hidden feelings and dig around in the psyche. This is the lazy that avoids fear in the hope things change or it just goes away.

Let’s call it for what it is. Lazy. It’s okay in the short term but in the long term, it erodes at our self-worth. We know we aren’t doing the hard work and like the dishes in the sink, it keeps piling up until we do something. All too often though the something we do isn’t the hard work, it’s another strategy for not doing what we know we should be doing.

Don’t be lazy. Do the work.

John Mariotti
www.crossfitodyssey.com
www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com

Sunday Story…It’s that

Time again. It comes around every year about this time. Every year you do some things in January to try and make some changes to improve your life in some way. Some of them work. Most of them don’t. Some years we give them up about 2 weeks into the year. Some years we get a couple months. Some years we don’t even try.

This year let’s do something a little different. Look back over this past year and pick the 1 thing that you really want to shift. Just one thing. Is it your fitness? Your eating habits? Ending a bad habit like tobacco use or alcohol? It doesn’t matter what it is.

Take the one thing and spend the next week thinking about what your life will look like when you achieve that goal. Make it real; make it so real you can taste it. Keep that image in your head.

Go back to the goal and reverse engineer it to today. You know the goal. You know what it is going to feel like when you get there. What do you need to do today to move closer to that point? When tomorrow comes, the same question applies…what do I need to do right now to move closer to that goal?

Make a plan of small incremental steps that you can do every day. Just little things. But things you can do every day without fail. Keep that feeling in your heart and your head.
You can do this if you just break it into small bite-sized pieces. The same way you would eat an elephant.

John Mariotti
www.crossfitodyssey.com
www.sunday-stories.blogspot.com
775-338-2412