Sunday Story…Connection

 Sometimes the person on the other end doesn’t want to play…in other words, they are going to be stuck in their old pattern of only hearing what they want to hear, formulating their answer before you finish and defending their position or attacking yours.

 

When that happens we refer back to the second gift…own your own experience. I am not in charge of the other person’s communications or experience. I can only take care of myself and my experience.

 

So what to do when the communication can’t take place? You could revert back to your old patterns and ways of communicating but that really shouldn’t be an option since it is so unsatisfying. You could keep trying to force the other party into your way of thinking and communicating but that is a no-win proposition. You can’t make someone do something they don’t want to do. You could just stop trying but again no one wins in that situation either.

 

Here’s an idea…keep communicating in a way designed to keep the connection. Your primary purpose is to stay connected not be right or be the better person. Own your experience and express your desire to be connected. Then let it go. That’s right…let it go. Stay connected, yet not invested in the outcome. The outcome is connection, not communication.

 

Sometimes the best goal is to have no goal.

 

John Mariotti

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