Sunday Story...Wish in One Hand

Sunday Story…Wish in One Hand

There are a million excuses for you to use for whatever you are not doing, or supposed to be doing but aren’t, or for your shortcomings. One of the most common is I wish I could___________ (fill in whatever you wish you could be doing).
I wish I could get into shape but __________
I wish I could eat better but___________
I wish I could get my blood pressure down but____________
I wish I could, I wish I could I wish I could. This is not the sound of anyone who is going to get anything done. I am sure the reasoning you are applying to the things that you aren’t doing is sound and reasonable. I am sure it makes sense. I am sure that logic works. FOR YOU.

The facts are simple. If you are wishing in one hand and finding a whole lot of stuff after the but you are simply letting the world run you on whatever terms it finds timely. You are not in charge of your life. You are not being proactive in running your life.

I’ll bet you wish you could change that outlook. But it’s too hard isn’t it. But my spouse just won’t let me. But I have so many responsibilities. But I don’t have any time to plan my life. But the world just handed me a bad hand of cards. But there just isn’t anything I can do about it.

Fine. Stop reading now. You have gone far enough. There is nothing for you here.

Still reading? Good. Look quit wishing for stuff. There is no fairy godmother coming around to grant you 3 wishes, no genie coming out of the bottle, no magic beans. Your wishes just aren’t going to come true. I feel really bad about putting it so bluntly but there it is. Think back to when you found out about whatever childhood icon you believed in (Santa, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny) wasn’t real. Remember the confusion, the devastation this brought to your world view? Or maybe you had some idea before it was confirmed but you wanted to play along with the game a little longer. You wanted to believe in the magic longer because it kept things simple and easy in the little world you were living in.
If you want to be in better shape you can be. If you want to eat healthier you can. If you want to live a life of wonder and splendor you can. It really isn’t that hard.

First you better decide what definition you are going to use for the thing you want. What does healthier really look like to you? I know what it looks like to me but what does it look like to you. The more clear your definition the easier the process of getting is going to be. You need a clearly defined idea of the thing you want. I want to be rich. OK…what does that look like in the world you are living in because compared to many parts of the world (where they live on less than $3.00 per day) you already are rich. I want to lose some weight…OK how much?

Wishing just won’t make things so. You need to define what it is you want. You need to start defining how you want your life to look. This is the stop for many people. What if I’m wrong? What if I say I want this that and the other thing and I get it and then I don’t really want it? One question comes to mind…if you haven’t designed the life you are living and you really aren’t happy with it, how will getting something you design but don’t want be any different than what you have today? Just asking.

It seems to me I would be better off designing a life and then realizing I would rather have designed it differently than living on accident. If I don’t like what I create I can always make some adjustments and create something else. I mean can’t you shift and change more than once? I have had several careers over the years. I loved them all and thought they were the exact right things at the exact right times. Was I wrong? Was I building sand castles just waiting for the tide to come in and tear them down? No these were solid things, good things but I changed and shifted and then built something different. Not better perhaps, but certainly more relevant to who and what I wanted to be doing.

Just defining what it is isn’t going to be enough though. You are going to have to figure out how and when you are going to get what it is you really want. Then you are going to have to make a plan to go out and get it. It won’t happen in the face of inaction. It won’t happen in the ill defined, poorly planed environment your life has been up to this point. If you want it you are going to have to go and get it. If you want to win the lottery you had better go out and buy a ticket.

This isn’t rocket science. This isn’t brain surgery. It really is very simple. But it is going to require effort. It is going to require you to get up off your duff and do something. It is going to require some struggle; you might get frustrated and maybe even sidetracked but in the end it will be your life. The life you want, the body you want, the world you want. Sitting around and wishing just won’t make it so.

If you wish in one hand and put mud in the other, when you put them together you get a handful of mud. If you put goals and plans in one hand and mud in the other at least you still have goals and plans when you put them together.

Stop wishing and start working.

Namaste
John
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